Jakarta, CNBC Indonesia – Being ignored or ignored after an argument with your partner is annoying. This is often referred to as silent treatment or refusal to communicate verbally with others.
Sadly, silent treatment is not the right way to solve problems with your partner. Because people use it silent treatment can have a profound effect on the self-esteem of those who fall victim to it.
Launch Medical News Todaysilent treatment it can sometimes be a form of emotional abuse when one person uses it to control and manipulate their partner.
How silent treatment affect relationships
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In most cases, using silence is not a productive way to resolve disagreements.
Research shows that both men and women frequently use it silent treatment in relationship. However, clear and direct communication is essential to a healthy relationship.
When one partner wants to talk about a problem but the other partner pulls away, it can lead to negative emotions such as anger.
According to a 2012 study, people who often feel neglected also report lower levels of self-esteem, sense of belonging, and meaning in life.
Therefore, silent treatment can impact the health of a relationship, even if the person who is silent is trying to avoid conflict.
A person with a partner who avoids conflict is more likely to continue the dispute because they do not have the opportunity to discuss their complaints.
is silent treatment includes elements of violence?
Someone might use silent treatment which leads to emotional violence if:
- Intends to hurt others with his silence
- Silent treatment lasts for a long time
- Talking to other people but not to their partner
- Use silent treatment to blame their partner and make them feel guilty
- Apply silent treatment to manipulate or “fix” their partner, or to pressure their partner to change their behavior
How to deal silent treatment?
The way a person responds to treatment silent treatment depending on whether the partner is violent or not.
If treatment silent treatment doesn’t seem to be part of a violent pattern, you can try the following approaches:
1. State the situation
Acknowledge that your partner is using the treatment silent treatment. For example, you could say, “I noticed you weren’t responding to me.” This lays the foundation for two people to interact with each other more effectively.
2. Use ‘I’ statements
You can express your feelings to others by using “I” statements. For example: “I feel hurt and sad because you won’t talk to me. I want to resolve this issue.”
3. Ask your partner to express their feelings
Ask your partner to openly express their feelings. This can let them know that their feelings are important and valid, and pave the way for healthier conversations.
Avoid getting defensive or going into problem-solving mode. Try to stay present and listen empathetically.
If your partner responds in a threatening or abusive manner, it is best to walk away from the situation until he or she calms down. Talk to a doctor, therapist, or trusted friend for help.
4. Apologize for words or actions
You don’t blame yourself for your actions silent treatment what other people do. However, you may need to apologize if you have done something that may have hurt your partner’s feelings.
Calm yourself and set a time to solve the problem
Sometimes, a person may remain silent because he or she is too angry, hurt, or overwhelmed to speak. They may be afraid of saying something that could make the situation worse.
In these cases, it can be helpful if everyone takes some time to calm down before gathering to calmly discuss the issue.
5. Avoid unhelpful responses
Try not to escalate the situation or provoke the person doing it silent treatment to speak. This can lead to greater conflict.
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Originally posted 2023-10-18 09:15:00.